When COVID-19 and the regulations and fears of the pandemic hit last year,  I believed that my divorce practice would have to close.  The repercussions to a divorce practice were unknown.  Unfortunately or fortunately, depending on your perception of divorce, my office has been inundated with cases with people just wanting to get out of their marriage.  I am  getting calls every day from normal people who never conceived that the word “divorce” would be uttered by them or their spouse. Unfortunately in society today, pandemic or no pandemic, we expect things to happen quickly including dissolving a marriage. We have lost the ability to be patient and try to work through our problems in a civil and considerate way.

Most people are shocked that their spouse has even considered filing for a divorce during a pandemic.  Even worse is when a person is unexpectedly served with divorce papers at work or at home. In a split second, all love…all civility…all caring…goes out the window. Your marriage turns into a living hell where the only objective is to hurt the other person more than they will hurt you.

If a divorce will be part of your future, don’t lose sight of your life. There is life after a divorce. There is life during a pending divorce. You must maintain a sense of respect and dignity. Communication is the key. Don’t stop the channel of communication between you and your spouse. What you don’t know will scare you more than what you know. And, get a divorce attorney that will try to use every practical effort to find a practical solution to your case.

You will get past any crisis in your life. Keep in mind that if the “situation does not destroy you…it will only make you a stronger person in the future”. With the right attitude and maybe with the right attorney, you will succeed in enjoying life again.

Roland Barbosa, attorney and counselor at law.  We seek and fight for practical solutions to your divorce without it costing you an arm and a leg to get there.