Is there an advantage to staying married?

As a divorce attorney,  I am amazed at people that call me to ask me if it is “good” for them to get a divorce during the COVID-19 Pandemic.   Every case is unique when it comes to “divorce or not divorce”.  There are situations where parties will benefit financially or in business if they remain married to each other.  We get calls every day from normal people who never conceived that the word “divorce” would be uttered by them or their spouse. Unfortunately in society today, we expect things to happen quickly including dissolving a marriage. We have lost the ability to be patient and try to work through our problems in a civil and considerate way.

What if my spouse wants the divorce?

No, you can not stop your spouse from divorcing you.  Some of my divorce clients  are shocked that their spouse has even considered filing for a divorce. Even worse is when a person is unexpectedly served with divorce papers. In a split second, all love…all civility…all caring…goes out the window. Your marriage turns into a living hell where the only objective is to hurt the other person more than they will hurt you.

Is there life after divorce?

In today’s society,  we learn quickly to accept the things we can not change.  If a divorce will be part of your future, don’t lose sight of your life. There is life after a divorce. There is life during a pending divorce. You must maintain a sense of respect and dignity. Communication is the key. Don’t stop the channel of communication between you and your spouse. What you don’t know will scare you more than what you know.

Will I survive a divorce?

The answer to our clients is – YES.  You will get past any crisis in your life. Keep in mind that if the “situation does not destroy you…it will only make you a stronger person in the future”. With the right attitude and maybe with the right attorney, you will succeed in enjoying life again.

Can I remarry the person I am divorcing?

I have been a divorce attorney for over 30 years.   I will tell you that at least 2 or 3 times each year that I have practiced divorce law,  I will get repeat clients asking for their second and third divorces.  Ironically,  most of them married their former spouse again.   I will tell you that the odds of making your marriage work a second or third time, after divorcing that same person, are not good.